We have all heard the adage that “time waits for no man’ and the idea that “the clock is ticking.” It got me to thinking about how much weight we place on the idea of time, this invisible taskmaster, created by our own minds in collaboration with the sun and moon. We have allowed it to dictate how we move through life, from how our days are designed to when big experiences should take place, such as weddings. Sometimes we even judge our worth by it, since we all know as we age beauty fades. We often feel pressed for time and worry that “time is passing us by.”
We spend ample amounts of time worrying about time!
We all know that “time will tell,” because we assume it is wise and all knowing. Somehow, we believe our future selves will have learned more, the more time we are given to paddle around in our tragedies and triumphs. Because it is so wise, we desire and fear the passage of it. We get wrapped around and all tangled up in it, rather than utilizing it for what it is; a way to categorize and structure our experience. Continue reading
Throughout my life, I have experienced significant hardship. In my mind, I felt as though I had the worst luck and if things could go from bad to worse in a heartbeat, they always would. In many ways, I had accepted fatalistic thinking. I was resigned to a pessimistic life full of anger, sadness, disgust, feelings of defeat, loneliness, and worthlessness.
The negative piled up plentifully (as it does when left unchecked) and the positive shrunk to almost an imperceptible size.
Recently, I had the opportunity to work with someone with high social anxiety and very low self-esteem. Full of so much self-disgust, he hid his true self from everyone he came into contact with, for reason’s not even he understood. He often found himself lying to others in order to appear more desirable or amicable to them. It was not as though he thought of it as not being truthful, he simply wanted to be agreeable and attractive, therefore making statements or comments that were contrary to how he truly felt. When life and relationships became overwhelming or he could not hold to the untruth’s any longer, he would bail and isolate himself.
I observed this and worked with him through a mindfulness lens, using non-judgement and compassion as our framework. As we neared the end of our work together, he began to see how not being truthful, even when it was not with the intention of hurting someone else, was harmful to both parties involved.
When we are able to be more honest about who we are, the more room we make for natural and positive connections with others.
While the year 2016 had its moments (the good, the bad and the ugly), it did not shape up to be the year I wanted it to be. As I took a look back at my accomplishments, I realized not only had I not set any new years resolutions, but I did not set any goals either. While I have a bucket list in my head, I have never written it down. To be honest, I am not a big fan of creating new years resolutions anyway, because I can never seem to follow through with them. I know so many people who feel the same way!
Improving your sleep can have a remarkable effect on your amygdala. The best approach to improving sleep is to take a careful look at your sleeping practices and make sure that they are healthy. The following sleeping practices can really assist you in achieving a good night’s sleep.