Recently, I had the opportunity to work with someone with high social anxiety and very low self-esteem. Full of so much self-disgust, he hid his true self from everyone he came into contact with, for reason’s not even he understood. He often found himself lying to others in order to appear more desirable or amicable to them. It was not as though he thought of it as not being truthful, he simply wanted to be agreeable and attractive, therefore making statements or comments that were contrary to how he truly felt. When life and relationships became overwhelming or he could not hold to the untruth’s any longer, he would bail and isolate himself.
I observed this and worked with him through a mindfulness lens, using non-judgement and compassion as our framework. As we neared the end of our work together, he began to see how not being truthful, even when it was not with the intention of hurting someone else, was harmful to both parties involved.
When we are able to be more honest about who we are, the more room we make for natural and positive connections with others.
While the year 2016 had its moments (the good, the bad and the ugly), it did not shape up to be the year I wanted it to be. As I took a look back at my accomplishments, I realized not only had I not set any new years resolutions, but I did not set any goals either. While I have a bucket list in my head, I have never written it down. To be honest, I am not a big fan of creating new years resolutions anyway, because I can never seem to follow through with them. I know so many people who feel the same way!
Improving your sleep can have a remarkable effect on your amygdala. The best approach to improving sleep is to take a careful look at your sleeping practices and make sure that they are healthy. The following sleeping practices can really assist you in achieving a good night’s sleep.
Brutiful – adj.: Life is brutal. And life is beautiful. Brutiful, I call it. Life’s brutal and beautiful are woven together so tightly they are inseparable. We must embrace both or neither. If we reject the brutal, we reject the beautiful. Our problems stem from our refusal to surrender to the fact that life is truly more brutal and beautiful than we can imagine. We must let it be. Breathe deeply and know that if we let it come and feel it all – the brutal will make us kinder, softer, stronger, even more beautiful.
― Glennon Doyle Melton
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Do not miss a heartbeat; dare not blink. Know what needs to be done and follow through no matter what happens. Do not hesitate; there is no room for fear or even a millisecond of weakness. It is your oath to watch their back; it is theirs to watch yours. Hesitating will get you killed. Or worse; it will get your buddy, your best friend or your entire squad taken out. Mistakes are not just unacceptable, they are deadly. Do not fuck it up!
Values become ingrained like a second coat of armor. Among many things taught, we learn:
Suck it up figure it out get it done soldier on
trying is not good enough mistakes lead to disaster weakness is deadly
bring your A game 24/7 rely on the training – do not think
sleep with one eye open there is no room for excuses
prepare for the worst, hope for the best there is no room for emotions
a soldier’s life is no longer theirs – the mission is the only thing that matters