While the year 2016 had its moments (the good, the bad and the ugly), it did not shape up to be the year I wanted it to be. As I took a look back at my accomplishments, I realized not only had I not set any new years resolutions, but I did not set any goals either. While I have a bucket list in my head, I have never written it down. To be honest, I am not a big fan of creating new years resolutions anyway, because I can never seem to follow through with them. I know so many people who feel the same way!
Improving your sleep can have a remarkable effect on your amygdala. The best approach to improving sleep is to take a careful look at your sleeping practices and make sure that they are healthy. The following sleeping practices can really assist you in achieving a good night’s sleep.
Brutiful – adj.: Life is brutal. And life is beautiful. Brutiful, I call it. Life’s brutal and beautiful are woven together so tightly they are inseparable. We must embrace both or neither. If we reject the brutal, we reject the beautiful. Our problems stem from our refusal to surrender to the fact that life is truly more brutal and beautiful than we can imagine. We must let it be. Breathe deeply and know that if we let it come and feel it all – the brutal will make us kinder, softer, stronger, even more beautiful.
― Glennon Doyle Melton
Do not miss a heartbeat; dare not blink. Know what needs to be done and follow through no matter what happens. Do not hesitate; there is no room for fear or even a millisecond of weakness. It is your oath to watch their back; it is theirs to watch yours. Hesitating will get you killed. Or worse; it will get your buddy, your best friend or your entire squad taken out. Mistakes are not just unacceptable, they are deadly. Do not fuck it up!
Values become ingrained like a second coat of armor. Among many things taught, we learn:
Suck it up figure it out get it done soldier on
trying is not good enough mistakes lead to disaster weakness is deadly
bring your A game 24/7 rely on the training – do not think
sleep with one eye open there is no room for excuses
prepare for the worst, hope for the best there is no room for emotions
a soldier’s life is no longer theirs – the mission is the only thing that matters
I recently told a friend, I was afraid of what people might think of me if they knew who I really was deep down inside. She looked at me quizzically. Yet, I realized this was the truth I had created for myself, creatively held within the pages of my “book of inadequacies.”
Whether we own up to the idea or not, I think we all are in possession of a book of inadequacies. Whether we bury them deep within our conscious, or obstinately face them in our daily lives, they impact our every thought. Which in turn impacts how we chose to live our lives, how we create our stories and who we invite on our journey.
Shame and fear, I have found, take turns driving and riding shotgun on my own personal journey. Recently, I asked myself why this had become true and what if anything, I could do about it. As I pieced together the different experiences I had as a child and a young adult, via as honest of a lens as I could muster, I began to see more clearly the root of these feelings.